I have always been fascinated by personal ads. Years ago it was classifieds in, maybe the New Yorker? Village Voice? NYT? I really liked the ones in Indian newspapers, because it was families seeking to match castes, professions, horoscopes, auspicious days—I mean it's amazing anyone ever got together. Then Craig's List came along, and pretty soon even the for sale ads there started seeming like dating sites (the same can be true of Facebook, Insta, Words With Friends and any site where one interacts with strangers, apparently).
Anyway, I'm in heaven with the dedicated dating sites. Motherlode! I mean, photographs! I have checked out OK Cupid, but it's Tinder that has my vote for Most Out There. People are very specific about their desires, hopes and hobbies. Yes, in all the geographical areas I have checked out, men are into their fish. Not sure why this is supposed to be alluring. Nor this.
Presumably these are better than the dick pix that would be on offer if requested. These are all pix from the New York area. The dating pool of smart phone users in the Ozarks (see previous post!) is pretty thin—I am always afraid of seeing someone on line that I know IRL. Most of the guys are in their 20s and not only show pix of themselves holding their fish but their babies. OK, dudes, it works! Cool! In NYC the dating pool is full of fish. Men here tend more frequently to show themselves with older kids or pets. Perhaps if you are a family man or a dog owner you seem warm and fuzzy. Because, face it, men on Tinder are trying to figure out whether they will get laid, women are trying to figure out whether they will get killed.
The kink factor in New York is intense, compared with the countryside. (Insert trigger warning here.)
There's a lot of that—I'll spare you the details. But then there's also the following, some of which is clearly spoof, but how much?
People seem to have very definite ideas (or say they do) about what they are looking for. Question: If you really knew what you were looking for, wouldn't you have found it? For me, Christians, Trumpsters, golf, gym rats, Netflix, married guys looking for NSA fun, people who can't speak or write good English would be automatic no's. There are men looking for sugar babies, and sugar babies looking for men. The only women I see are the latter, or the occasional lesbian or woman looking for a threesome with her husband. My male friends tell me that many women are looking for a rich guy, or at least to be elegantly wined and dined (which may account for the plethora of men who say they like fine dining and travel) and are "as comfortable in jeans as a little black dress." I don't know. I would love to put up a fake profile as a man and find out what women say, but I can't because I only have one phone number.
I can tell you that very few men of my age are looking for women of my age, but a lot of men around 40 are, whether out of fear, fetish or fortune, I couldn't tell you. And plenty of men are mainly interested in sexting—I guess maybe part of that is The Covid? Part a porn addiction? No idea, but I will keep you abreast (ahem) of dating site news as my period of inactivity looms.
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