11.29.2021

new knee tk

 

As if to say, "I've done yeoman's work for almost 71 years now and you are replacing me??"  yesterday my knee refused to function. So I will limp, stagger, to the Hospital for Special Surgery around 11:30 and get a new one around 3. I will spend the night, presumably out of it, and get out late tomorrow afternoon. With my new knee. What happens to my old one, I dunno. But Bill Dugan wants to know. He should have asked what happened to his own old knee. After all the showers, you can barely see the arrows the kids drew on me to indicate the proper knee. 


 

11.28.2021

same as he ever was

After the tnxgvng hoopdedoo, on Friday, Erin and Flip took me to see David Byrne on Broadway with his American Utopia extravaganza. His musicians are all dancers and singers as well as playing their instruments, so it's a pretty great show. The packed, masked audience at the St. James Theater (yes, we had to show ID and proof of vaccination) got up on their feet ad danced a couple times. I was impressed by how faithfully David Byrne did David Byrne, and remembered the old days when Jed took me to Talking Heads' apartment after a CBGB's gig, as well as, hazily, a visit to their loft in Providence when they were still RISD-centric.


  

11.24.2021

great american eating ceremony

Yes, after a year's hitatus, the Great American Eating Ceremony is back with many of the same characters. Missing a few from the festive board through absence and, yes, death, but memories of them abound. Their recipes, art works—and place cards. Eva had a long run at the place cards, but Milla has taken over the spot. Not sure who's next up.
 
I will soon be yelling about the turkey, the gravy and freaking out about the number of chairs, and then we sit sit down and be grateful for one another. In a last minute reprieve, Camilla, who had a classmate with The Covid, and the rest of the family were able to come in for it. They all tested negative yesterday at 9:45, loaded up the car and came down in a lovely six-hour drive of parking lot traffic. I guess a lot of other people are celebrating the Great American Eating Ceremony this year.
   Wait ahold it, I didn't say Great American Reading Ceremony!

 
 

11.23.2021

the vassar years

With Rosy Woo on the steps of the Observatory at Vassar

 

The lines in the gym for class signup were intimidatingly long. English, drama, sociology—the desks were slammed with wannabe students. I was a freshman, and I had no idea what to take. Then I saw Mrs. Chin sitting alone at a desk, and said, “Chinese!” I was probably interested in Asia because of my father, who was stationed in Okinawa in WWII. One of his great regrets was that when Marine intelligence wanted him to join a trek to Chang Kai Shek’s HQ in Chongqing, probably because of his expertise in poisonous snakes, his commanding officers would not give him permission to go.

Chinese language became the only through-line of my studies, which were all over the map.  I loved going to the old observatory every day. The mice didn’t worry me. I thought it was one of the coolest places on campus. 

    As a rising senior, I went to live with a friend of Mrs. Chin and family in Taipei, beginning a lifelong friendship with Changping. (Which reminds me, she called me yesterday and I better call her back!) And en route home, I stopped in Hawaii, where East meets West and vowed to return after graduation. Which I did. Over and over. I was supposed to go with Changping to Taiwan, too, last year, but The Covid intervened.

   I tried to track down Mrs. Chin to send her a letter thanking her for the effect she had had on my life—I even owe her my journalism career, because my boss said, “Well if you can speak Chinese I figure you can speak English”— but I was too late. I read in the Vassar Quarterly that she had died.

    Thank you to Rosie Woo, from Mrs. Chin’s class, for these photos, the only ones I know of me at Vassar, and for sparking this reminiscence.  

With Mrs. Chin's class, dressed in her qipao.

11.22.2021

chien-chi award


So Chien-Chi was presented with an award (and grant) I think  called the Taiwan Excellence Award. Not really clear on why or what, but I assume for his whole body of work, judging by his lecture. Here is a link to the slide show on Vimeo. You have to enter a password:

!GRAZ1213

 And now he can go back to his kids in Graz, Austria, where the far right is marching against lockdown measures for the unvaccinated hoards.


 


 

11.17.2021

at the hospital for special surgery

 I guess this is why people travel from all over the world and pay the big bucks to come here. Plenty of time to enjoy the view between pre-op appointments. My head is spinning, what with the questions about my personal life, the drug instructions, the x-rays, the predictions about physical therapy etc. Not to mention the never-ending medical portals/passwords. Good news: apparently all doctors and hospitals now believe we are entitled to the results of all these tests we've paid for. So. 

 
 

11.16.2021

the garage


 It's not even two years old, but the garage has already led multiple lives. When they ripped down the old garage, the new one was built specifically for Hannah's mother-in-law. She loved her tiny studio on the ground floor and having the family nearby. Chris has a light filled photo studio upstairs. When Sara died, as no other aging parents were ready to move in, Hannah and Chris made the place into an air bnb, which has already housed several happy visitors. And now Hannah is using Chris's studio as an office for her counseling business. 
 


The doctor is in; the photographer is on location.

11.15.2021

out with the old part 2

 

Listening to my refrigerator continually grinding away, and watching my electric bill go up by a third week to week, I have been trying to get a new one for a while. While I bought the old one —very old, I think more than 35 years old—myself, the building is obliged to supply me with one, and given that the "supply chain" is not what it should be, I thought it best to accept a slightly used refrigerator from another apartment. It's the right size, which it to say all Mammadou and Danny had to do was remove the stove knobs and handles and the refrigerator doors to get through the galley kitchen. I did not tell them that the building-supplied refrigerator from the 60s is still in the living room. And still functioning.

And—tada!—four hours later I have a freezer that's not continually defrosting to put my ice packs in. And Thanksgiving will happen (alla you folk with big ole suburban kitchens and lots of counter space just understand that it's not really necessary, though having two refrigerators is a great help!) And it's so quiet. I can stop worrying about it. Phew. 


 

 


 


11.12.2021

out with the old


Anybody remember what those things are? The things kids used to sit on top of when they were too little to reach the table? I have kept them for nostalgia's sake, but they have long since become useless to look anything up in. Not to mention all the stores advertised are likely no more, since retail, like phone books and plastic bags, is no more. Except Amazon and Instacart. So where the phone books used to be, there will now be the Instacart shopping bags (brand new) you can't return. Mama's got a brand new bag! Well, lots of them. How can this be good for the waste stream? I refuse to throw them away. Some day when food is manufactured in your kitchen instead of grown or killed, someone can throw out these shopping bags as well.

11.11.2021

family news

My first cousin Tom, who I have seen a handful of times in our lives, stopped by on the way back to the hotel from The Museum of Natural History. I remember his father, my uncle Ed, well. He worked for AMP and was the first person I ever heard talk about computers. He was a mad scientist inventor, and he told us that one day cars would drive themselves. This was in the 1950s, and no one believed him at the time. Ahem. So Tom also is some kind of systems engineer, having to do with running large buildings. He has been teaching others how to do it at Penn State and around the country and fully expected to run into people he taught at the World Trade center today.
   His wife Dee, meanwhile, is a hero. While fighting recurrent (for 15 years) and metastatic breast cancer, she fell down the cellar stairs and broke wrist and foot. They have been hauling in from Pennsylvania to Sloan Kettering this year. But this time it was a tourist visit, and Dee was walking all over NYC like a boss, casts and all.
    Their son Nathan showed me pix of his two pet Axolotls. I can't say that. They are high maintenance Mexican salamanders which are having a moment. Very cute,  check them out here. I want one, but I can't see adding aquaria to What's In the Truck. 
   And, yes, that is Donna in the mirror taking Dee's picture.  She behaved herself very well. Donna, I mean.

 

11.10.2021

more ed!

 

It was great to hang with the gang. Bill Dowell, formerly Time bureau chief who worked with Ed from Cairo to Paris to Hong Kong (may be the wrong order, and many more places) drove up from the City of Brotherly Love for lunch in Brooklyn with Ed. Barb came down from the Bronx, and neighborhood friends dropped by. All of us have had lunch with Ed roughly ten thousand times over the last 40 years, and we are expert at it. We talk about the old times and the new times. Which are not, frankly, as exciting, except for Ed, who has more excitement than he bargained for and not the kind he likes. Cancer has stripped many of his pleasures away, but old friends are an abiding one.

Another pleasure is favorite restaurants, even though he can't eat or drink much—chemo fucks with your taste buds. The owner/chef was delighted to see him, and buzzed around, allowing us to change tables three times without fussing.

You have to schedule out lunches with Ed, because radiation makes him tired. So does chemo, but it also makes him poisonous—he can't touch his dog Sammy in case the dog licks his skin. So the optimum time for a visit is when he is on hiatus from both procedures. He never does get a vacation from his special electromagnetic hat with accompanying battery pack. Ed ate dates wrapped in bacon. So did I, and they were very good. (I mean, bacon!)
   Anyway, you know it was a good lunch because we wrapped it up around 8 pm, eight hours after we'd started. And Dowell drove Dowling home and stayed over at the Dowling Intercontinental.
It was a perfect day. And just for fun, here are Pavoratti and Lou Reed singing Reed's "Perfect Day," surely one of the oddest duets ever. 

11.08.2021

getting personal

 

I have always been fascinated by personal ads. Years ago it was classifieds in, maybe the New Yorker? Village Voice? NYT? I really liked the ones in Indian newspapers, because it was families seeking to match castes, professions, horoscopes, auspicious days—I mean it's amazing anyone ever got together. Then Craig's List came along, and pretty soon even the for sale ads there started seeming like dating sites (the same can be true of Facebook, Insta, Words With Friends and any site where one interacts with strangers, apparently).
   Anyway, I'm in heaven with the dedicated dating sites. Motherlode! I mean, photographs! I have checked out OK Cupid, but it's Tinder that has my vote for Most Out There. People are very specific about their desires, hopes and hobbies. Yes, in all the geographical areas I have checked out, men are into their fish. Not sure why this is supposed to be alluring. Nor this.

 

 Presumably these are better than the dick pix that would be on offer if requested. These are all pix from the New York area. The dating pool of smart phone users in the Ozarks (see previous post!) is pretty thin—I am always afraid of seeing someone on line that I know IRL. Most of the guys are in their 20s and not only show pix of themselves holding their fish but their babies. OK, dudes, it works! Cool! In NYC the dating pool is full of fish. Men here tend more frequently to show themselves with older kids or pets. Perhaps if you are a family man or a dog owner you seem warm and fuzzy. Because, face it, men on Tinder are trying to figure out whether they will get laid, women are trying to figure out whether they will get killed. 
    The kink factor in New York is intense, compared with the countryside. (Insert trigger warning here.)



 There's a lot of that—I'll spare you the details. But then there's also the following, some of which is clearly spoof, but how much?

And, yes, politics rears its divisive head here too. You got your God-fearing and your antivaxers, and then you got the opposite.

 

 People seem to have very definite ideas (or say they do) about what they are looking for. Question: If you really knew what you were looking for, wouldn't you have found it? For me, Christians, Trumpsters, golf, gym rats, Netflix, married guys looking for NSA fun, people who can't speak or write good English would be automatic no's. There are men looking for sugar babies, and sugar babies looking for men. The only women I see are the latter, or the occasional lesbian or woman looking  for a threesome with her husband. My male friends tell me that many women are looking for a rich guy, or at least to be elegantly wined and dined (which may account for the plethora of men who say they like fine dining and travel) and are "as comfortable in jeans as a little black dress." I don't know. I would love to put up a fake profile as a man and find out what women say, but I can't because I only have one phone number.

 I can tell you that very few men of my age are looking for women of my age, but a lot of men around 40 are, whether out of fear, fetish or fortune, I couldn't tell you. And plenty of men are mainly interested in sexting—I guess maybe part of that is The Covid? Part a porn addiction? No idea, but I will keep you abreast (ahem) of dating site news as my period of inactivity looms.

 

11.05.2021

sleeping with the fish

Chien-Chi is on his next to last day of his two-week hotel quarantine in Taiwan, and as you can see he's going a bit stir crazy. He is not even allowed to set foot in the hallway—there are video cameras trained on the door—and all his food (and wine) is delivered. He was very excited when a friend delivered the goldfish he wanted to film.
     I did not realize he was going to put them—and himself—in the bath tub. When he gets out of the hotel tomorrow he will still be in quarantine, but at his parents' house. "My phone is still being tracked, but I can move around except public places," he says. "I still have to answer a text message from the government COVID-prevention center every day for another week!" Finally, he will be allowed to show up at the awards show where he will give a presentation and collect his grant. And apparently, not a moment too soon!
   He is totally vaccinated and has been masked in and en route from Austria. He has to pay for the hotel room where he is required to stay. And no one in Taiwan is fussing about their "freedoms." Just saying.


 

11.04.2021

sometimes the system works


Apparently Walmart knows my taste in alcoholic beverages and toilet paper, though I'm not sure if they know I watch no TV.  They may also know my usual whereabouts, and that I'm not ordinarily in LA.
   Anyway I got a call from my credit card company saying that there were suspicious charges on my card, but that Walmart had denied the transaction and credited my account the $200 some—twice. The credit card company suggested I call Walmart and change my password for that account. So I did, and I did. And I guess that's done.

11.03.2021

happy belated

Yes, it was Halloween in New York. People got into it with decorations and costumes on the street.
 
It was really Halloween in Providence, with ze keedz.


And, yes, it was Halloween in Alabama too, with Augustus (or Thor, as I call him), all gussied up. And not looking best pleased.